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Silent Miscarriage at 9 weeks
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ms_jones - October 15

My name is Tracy, I'm 42 and mum to Isabella aged 5. Have been trying for a sibling for her for 4 years. Around my 40th I had two miscarriages and now find myself (in shock and very sad) that I have suffered a silent miscarriage. To be honest I was just about giving up hope of every getting pregnant again, what with my age and past miscarriages.

Today was my second ultrasound that confirmed the baby has no heartbeat and had not progressed since the first scan 10 days ago.

It's seems exceptionally cruel that my body still believes itself to be 9 weeks pregnant, I have no bleeding or abdominal pains, I am starting to put on weight, have heavy boobs and feeling very sick (all day long). I now have to decide what to do next. Am hoping for some advice - I am worried about having a d&c, so am thinking of waiting this out or trying the medical treatment option of tablets. Does anyone have any experience of this? Any advice would be most appreciated. I have been surfing the net for information and found this site.

My heart goes out to all women who have gone through this painful process. I feel blessed to have my little girl but so disappointed that I have not managed to produce a little brother or sister for her - it's all she (and I) want.



JessieT - October 19

Heey my names Jess, I too suffered a silent pregnancy 17 weeks ago, and physically recovered now, although emotionally is another story! I just want to say I'm so sorry to hear about your story and can't begin to imagine how it feels, one is bad enough. I didn't want a d&c either so I had to choose between medical m or natrual, which I chose natrual. Ended up 4 weeks later with nothing happening so I was told to have the medical m although determined to sit it out, I did, and it then started the next day. I was in a lot of pain in bed (no one knew apart from me and my partner so we went through it alone) although at 5am I woke, and had to run to the loo, I felt like my insides had exploded. Inwas then rushed to hosp as my blood loss was horrific. My baby had to be removed during a examination cause I had clotted.
But when I look back, although the worst experience of my life, I'm glad I did it naturally, it was the least I could do for my baby and if everything had worked out well, then I'd be giving birth naturally, just because my babies heartbeat wasn't there, didn't mean anything different.
I feel if I had and intervention then to this day I would feel worse then I do now. I'm proud of me and my baby :)
I hope you choose what's right for you. It's important to take time and think about it. If I'd have had a d&c, I would been gutted right now. I really wish you all the luck in the world for you and your little girl, please, don't give up :)


ms_jones - November 2

Hi Jess

Thanks for your support and telling me your story. It's comforting to know you are not the only one going through these difficult times. I am so sorry for your loss too.

In the end, I opted for the medical management option, as nothing was happening after 2 weeks of finding out. The worse thing about it was waiting for a bed which took 6 hours after I got to the hospital. I found it much less painful than my previous miscarriage which happened naturally at home, but of course it's not nice being around other patients on a general gynae ward (and opposite the birthing suite) when you are going through a miscarriage.

I'm physically over it now, but still very sad. I'm worried about going back to work next week. I think the whole experience has knocked my confidence.

I'm also confused about whether to try again or not. Time is running out for me, I am 42 after all. It breaks my heart though that my little girl (age 5) is so desperate to be a big sister. I just don't know if I can go through that again. I have been to see my GP and asked to be referred to the recurrent miscarriage clinic and am now playing the waiting game.

Sending you lots of love. All the best,



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