Double Your Pleasure
So many women have bought into the idea that once they are menopausal then their sex lives are over forever. Nothing could be further from the truth. If anything, post-menopause opens the door to new explorations and greater freedoms in the bedroom than ever before. These newfound freedoms open exciting doors for your partner as well.
It’s A Man’s World-Or Is It?
Since our culture has conditioned women to believe that sex is about pleasing the man, most women fizzle out sexually at menopause partially as a response to having to “do everything for everyone else.” Menopause is the time in life when a woman gets to find out about herself-her desires and drives-and what pleases her. When a post-menopausal woman is turned on and fulfilled, she makes a huge impact upon all those around her.
During the sexual revolution, women were taught that the whole idea behind sexual liberty was to satisfy a man. The problem was that it was all on the man’s terms and the woman had the freedom to do what he wanted. When we arrive at our mid-forties reality suddenly hits us and the wild woman, written about by Clarissa Estes, PhD, begins to awaken within us. The discouragement of lost libido and lack of desire signals the beginning of getting in touch with what we really want and need from our sexual experience.
I’m Menopausal And I’m All Dried Up. Not.
We have been conditioned to believe that once we arrive at menopause, the physiological symptoms of lost libido are to be expected and accepted. This is just the way it is, get used to it. However, today there are some very challenging pieces of information and methods available to help a woman discover her sexuality and enjoy it. Drug companies have picked up the concept and are producing such items as Pink Viagra in a bid to get in on the burgeoning market of menopausal baby-boomer women who want more from life than they have had until now. However, drugs may not be necessary at all.
You’re As Sexy As You Were Way Back Then
Dr. Christine Northrup, respected author and women’s specialist, discusses the ideas that a woman needs to look at herself, the sexual areas of her body (both physical and emotional), and learn to love and explore them. A woman needs to pay attention to her own sexuality and sensuality in order to revive it. The things that stimulated her when she was young are the same things that will stimulate her now, in menopause and after.
Learning to stimulate your own sexuality can be an intimidating venture since it tends to cross certain restrictive lines. However, to deny yourself the pleasure associated with fulfilling sex on your own terms is to deny your right as a woman to experience life to the fullest.
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