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Miscarriage advice
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Kellyy82 - August 23

Hi Ladies
I have never posted on here before, but i have been trying to concieve for almost 3 years, and last month i started on clomid, and fell pregnant straight away, i did the test on the wednessday and almost immediatly started bleeding,and have been bleeding heavy for almost 8 days heavy. Doctors confirmed i am miscarrying after numerous bloods and a scan. This is now my 2nd pregnancy loss, and I am unsure of how i am going to get through it again. I am trying not to show my pain, but inside im crying, and am sick of the stupid comments people make, for example- you can always try again. I have a 5 year old daughter, and really wanted a little brother or sister for her. Any advice from anyone who has been through it or going through it


hindiko - October 9

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Fortisfertility - May 6

Hi kellyy,

already you have a 5 year old daughter,so you dont want to cry within you for this can consult your gynaecologist again


zaisa - September 11

miscarriage is an unfortunate incident that is beyond our control. not your fault neither anybody's fault. it's okay to cry, that's what people do when they get hurt and believe me, it helps.


talktalkcontact - September 28

let yourself grieve

Many of the women I talked to were surprised by—and unprepared for—the intensity of their grief. “I'm a nurse, so I know how common miscarriage is, and I even knew intellectually that it was probably hormones making me feel sad,” remembers Beth Resweber of Swarthmore, PA, a mom of four who miscarried after having her second child. “But I won't lie to you: I was pretty upset.” A sympathetic ear can make all the difference. If you don't have friends who know what you're going through, find a support group locally or online.

but don't be surprised if you don't feel much emotion at all

“Does it make me sound terribly cold to say that I wasn't that upset?” wonders Georgia Hallinan of Richmond, CA, who miscarried when her son Emmet was 4. “I mean, I cried when I started bleeding, and I felt sad for a few days, but I always knew I'd get pregnant again.” (She went on to have two more kids.) “A few days after the miscarriage, I thought, well, at least I can drink again. So I called a friend with a son Emmet's age and said I wanted to spend the afternoon sitting on her deck with a beer while our kids played in the yard.” The visit was low-key: They didn't even discuss the miscarriage, Hallinan remembers. “But it cheered me up to be back out in the world.”

expect misguided comments, even from good friends

Angela Ferguson of Fairdale, KY, who miscarried several times between her daughters Savannah, 9, and Raina, 20 months, was astounded by the insensitive comments she received. “People would tell me ‘Oh well, at least you have Savannah' and ‘Maybe it was for the best' or—my personal favorite—‘At least you weren't very far along.'”

Try to remind yourself that people don't mean to be hurtful. They probably feel helpless, and awkward, so they blurt out the first thing they think of. Unfortunately, that first thing is seldom “I'm so sorry. Is there anything I can do for you or your family?”

If you're feeling brave, you can meet insensitivity head-on. Tonia Nester of Redford, MI, mom of Owen, 3 1/2, and Avery, 14 months, was devastated when she miscarried her second pregnancy. When hurtful comments added insult to injury, “I'd look people right in the eye, and say, ‘This baby was real to us, not something I can replace like a lightbulb in a lamp. My family and I are devastated by this loss.’ I wasn't confronting them to be unkind, but to make it clear that I wasn't willing to brush my grief aside with clichés.”


Anisa - May 18

Hey. hope you are fine now. I can understand the pain to lose the baby. I want to share my sister's story. That will help you a lot. My sister is now 46. As the age of a woman increases she faces more complications. My sister spent 10 years infertility treatment due to miscarriages. But she faced failure. She decided to go for surrogacy without any delay. She went for it and now she has twins, a boy, and a girl. that was a surprise for her. It is never too late to take any right decision. I hope this would help you.


Cora044 - May 20

Hello there! I hope you are doing good. I am sorry to hear about your losses. I can understand how difficult is to face this phase of life. I had a miscarriage twice. After my second miscarriage, I went for surrogacy and had blessed with a child. Do you know about surrogacy? Surrogacy allows infertile to have children which they do not have otherwise. I don't suggest you try again for TTC. I suggest you that should go for surrogacy. I hope you would get positive results. Best wishes


cindy - May 22

hi there. I hope you are doing should not stress at all. as stress can be a huge factor and it can mess up the secretions from your brain. you should not lose hope. try to stay strong. I also had two miscarriages and I know how hard it is. it was really painful. I used to wake up in the middle of night and cry. it was painful for me, but I recuperated my strength and went for surrogacy. surrogacy is a great process .i think you should go for it. it is a beautiful choice for women who have a hard time conceiving. take care and do not lose hope.


Jennaspence - May 31

I am sorry for the loss. It must be very difficult I know. God must have planned something better for you. I know you dont wanna hear this. I know how it feels. You cannot do anything now. At least you have a baby girl. You can always give her a sibling. Have you considered your options? I mean you can go for Adoption. There is another option as well. You can go for surrogacy. I know this is a strange advice. Trust me it can work for you. Try talking to your husband.



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