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Two months on and trying again
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Darcy - February 4

I found out I had had a miscarriage 2 months ago when I was 8 weeks pregnant. This was my second pregnancy and my daughter is 1 year old. We were trying for a baby and when we found out we were happy but it was a really daunting prospect as our daughter can be hard work. I was so preoccupied looking after her that I never really paid any attention to the fact I was expecting again. Then 2 days before her 1st birthday I had a bit of tummy ache during the night. The next morning there was a small amount of blood. I tried not to panic as a few people I know had had bleeding in pregnancy and all was fine for them, but then I also thought miscarriage happens to 1 in 4 it's got to happen to someone I bet its me!
To cut a long story short I miscarried at home and managed to save my baby from disappearing off down the loo. I have buried it in the garden with its own special tree. I thought I was coping well and we started to try again after my first period. I was convinced I was pregnant again, I was tired and moody but then my period came and now I'm devastated. I don't know if I can go through this each month. Does it get easier with time? And I cant help feeling bad that I didn't give my baby much thought until I lost it and it deserved so much more than that! Am I fit to have another baby? Should I just leave it? Has anyone had similar feelings??


kate2010 - February 8

Hi, what a lovely thing to do with the tree. I too lost my baby at 8 weeks, it's been 5 months now and I've only just felt mentaly well enough to start trying again. Noone really gave me any advice as to how I should feel but from reading comments on here I think no matter how much thought you gave to your baby you'd still feel guilty about it somehow I know I thought loads as it was my first pregnancy but I still felt unbelievably guilty! I also felt useless and like I'd completely failed and didn't even have the strength to start trying again as I couldn't take the test saying no. Don't put too much pressure on yourself I found it takes a long time to feel better but you will get there hope this helps a little x x x



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